Chapter 43: Chapter 43
"Abu Hurayrah reports from the Prophet (sws): "When a husband calls his wife to bed, and she refuses and [as a result] the husband spends the night in anger, then angels curse the wife all night till dawn." (Bukhari, No: 3065)
"Jawaad is a man of every girls dream,do not let someone take away your husband on your watch,do not let him get angry as I see his a very jealous man-who's jealous and over protective when it comes to something which is his,and you're his,use your opportunity now or it's never My child,when he calls for you,do not deny him of his sexual rites,go on willingly and give him the best of yourself out their,if you let him force you or get angry at you,you won't like it because he can cause an injury in you,it's either in your first night or any other night,do not say anything,obey him and respect him even though I know he's not a person to do something to you unwillingly,so please take your chances love him and always love him and if you refuse then know that It is aid in the Qur'an
And as for those from whom you fear rebellion, admonish them [first] and [next] refuse to share their beds and [even then if they do not listen] punish them. Then if they obey you, take no further action against them. Indeed, Allah is Exalted and Mighty. (4:34)
"He will admonish you and the. He won't share a bed with you,and if they don't listen punish them,and so he will punish you as said Islamic ally,do not joke with what I'm telling you my love,hold your marriage,do everything to prevent him from looking at those outside,let's his attention always be on you"
"Okay mum,thank you"I said as she was done.
"You need to rest love,tomorrow is a big day"mum said as she was about to leave.
"One night with you mum please"And she may beside me as she hugged me to her chest until I fall asleep feeling the warmth of my mother for the last time even if I can't remember the joy she must have felt and the one I felt when I was born and was placed skin to skin to my mothers chest so I could feel her warmth.
"Ke Amaani,shey you're still sleeping?"aunty B said dragging my covers,I was avoiding this woman that was why I ran to mum's and I had to come back home after subhi salah today now I can't even sleep peacefully in my own room.
"Aunty B,it's just 10am fa"I replied dragging my covers back.
"Ke kani yanki,zaki Tashi ne ko saina maki wankan da kaina"I stood up immediately knowing she'll do just that.
"Oya shiga"I entered the toilet as she poured some traditional herbal into my bathing water as she does everyday for the past three months.
"Aunty B do I have to bath with this thing today?"I said and she send a hard glare my way leaving the toilet.Even though my body is so soft,very soft like a baby's I like it but all this traditional things is making me sick.
"Now wear this before all the visitors see you Like an almajira with all those jallabiya,I hope you won't wear those in your marital home kina ji ko"
"Ennn Aunty B"i replied looking at how creepy this woman can be,she even waited for me to come out of shower so she build gube me some clothes to wear,she could have just drop it there.
"Now I'm giving you just five minutes and you're down,kina ji na ko?"i nod as a yes and she left.
"I wore the crimson ankara which is sewn in a fitted gown featuring bell hands"
"Liking good bride"Manal commented.
"Thank you girl,where's everyone?"
"Getting ready for the ceremony,the house is full and everyone is so busy"
"Ya Amaani Aunty B is calling you"Taslim said by the door.
"Ya Allah,ooh no na shiga uku"
"You better go ooo,Ahh me I don't want trouble"manal said while laughing at me.
"Will see you later"I said and headed to Aunty B's room,greeting everyone I see on my way,but that I could greet everyone as the house is full and blasting with more guest from every angel.
"Saida kika bata min locaki ko?shigo nan ki zauna"she complained pointing a sit for me to keeo my fine ass.
"better open your ears and hear me faa,kafin kice baa gayamaki ba"she warned.
Amaani marriage It's knowing you need to help him leave a funk if he's depressed, and having him do the same for you. It's worrying about his health and reminding him to do something to improve it.
It's watching the news together on Sunday and talking about current events even if you don't like it.It's dishing up a bowl of ice cream, for him, for a favorite show you both love to watch together.
It's wonderful and it can be challenging and painful and then healing. But it's the best thing I've you'll ever ask of.
It's shopping at the grocery store together and cooking together and playing board or yard games together and reaching dreams together. It's lounging in the pool you built together with drinks, going to the park and walking the dogs, going for a long drive and knowing you have your favorite person with you.
it's supporting one another in everything.
It's buying a home together and making that a safe base, where the world doesn't get to call ANY shots. It's giving up your favorite car so he can finally buy his favorite car and loving how happy he is to drive it off the lot. And it's having him come home with a bouquet of roses and a box of chocolates, just because he loves you.
But more than that, it's romantic, sexy and amazing,but you should be all that to him,do not let your man lay eyes on another woman ever,you should always dress in those killer English sexy wears,showing off your body to your halal and don't just sit with a wrapper tied on your chest with falling breast,wear bum shots and crop tops,wear sexy lingeries of his favorite color,let your man feel you all over you,all around you and all into you,do not make the mistake of not slaying with your sexy figure eight body as you're full and have everything a man would dream of having in a lady,send him messages,text him all the time,give him your best while in sex,let him shout out your name and call your name all in the process of sex,sex him well as for him to Moan begging you not to kill him,do not feel shy of your husband or else Shy will do you shy when you see him with another woman,feel free and always tend to his needs whenever it arises,so not complain or say you're tired,always feel happy to let him have you at anytime.as you're seeing us all here we all survived in our husbands house with no second wife's because we know how to keep our mans...don't think we're old women fa,we will still slay even when we're at our 60's.
"Shey you're hearing me abhi or you're just looking at me like a television,because by the time I will see you with a baby bump that is when you'll come and thank me"
"Haaaaaaa Antyyyy B"i said while standing up to leave.
"Come back here,we are not yet done Amaani"Aunty B called out"
"Aunty B wallahi na gane,thank you so sosai"I said while leaving the room quickly and I heard her shouting "Zaki dawo ne kisame ni ai-you'll come back and meet me"
Stepping my foot out of the room Aunty Naima caught me by my hand.ya Allah.
"I've been looking for you dama,Allah ne ya kawo ki"
"Aunty wallahi ban ci abin ci ba-I haven't eaten breakfast yet"I complained grunting.
"This one is more important than breakfast ai,breakfast can wait"
"Oya follow me"she said as I was about to protest and I tailed behind her to an empty room closing the door behind.
"Oya sit,open your ears dakwai "she ordered and I did as told.
Marriage can be lovely my child but it also comes with some important rights. Sex columnist Dan Savage said it best: "Receptions and banquet halls are nice... But the truly important rights of marriage kick in during emergencies and at what are often the worst moments of our lives."
Some days you feel crappy. You had a terrible day at work, everything is wrong, and you just want to cry it out. Enter your cute spouse who thinks you are the best person. He says something nice and has a chocolate bar waiting for you, which makes him the smartest person ever,patience,Patience is the key to marriage my dear,you need to be patient-saboda muma dukan mu hakuri ne ya zaunan damu a gida jan mu-because we all too it's patience that sat us down until now i our marital homes.so patience my dear,I know you're a paying one amma sai an kara and always expect the unexpected,and accept everything that's comes in your way with good intentions,Banda leka waya-do not peep on his phone-babu ruwanki da wayarsa,kiyi harkan gaban ki-you have no business with his phone,mind your business always,don't go and see something you can't handle ooo,I'm warning you_men of nowadays are not to be trusted wallahi,kibi a hankali-step on easy.hide your husband do not let your friends come to your house anyhow and when his at home,or else zakiji ayiriri an kawo Amarya,tend to his need,tend to his need m,always answer to his desires at anytime and at anywhere.
There's not the world's sexiest reason to get married, but you have a built-in partner-in-crime who helps you make sure that you're not living in squalor. I hate washing the dishes. It's so damn boring.but you see my husband finds it relaxing. Isn't that Great?
"She asked and I nod as a yes"
ord Voldemort looks slightly better than you when you're sick. But then there's this sweet person who gets you soup and medicine while you watch 18 hours of 30 Rock and pray for the ability to breath through your nose again. This person is your savior. Thank them repeatedly for making sure you're not dead.
Alw.....she started as a Knock interrupt her,as Mami came into the room.
"Lectures?"she asked.
"Yes Mami"Aunty Naima answered and I begged Mami with my eyes to set me free.
"She needs to come with me,Her father wants to talk to her"Mami said as I stood up to follow her.
"Okay,you can go but we're not done oo,we'll meet another time"
"Thank you Aunty Naima"I thanked while leaving the room together with mami.
"Thank you so much Mami,ooh I'm going to miss you"I said as tears threaten to fall.
"You're not saved oo cx your father is waiting for you,go and receive another lectures,after that come down and meet me for mine too"she said the last part with a chuckle.
"But Mami I've been receiving all this lectures since yesterday"I complained.
"Yes you've been and it's all gonna be of help okay?"
"Okay love"I said kissing her forehead.
"Now go meet your father,I'll be waiting for you"
"Assalamualaikum Abba"I salaam knocking on the door.
"Come in"he opened the door with a smile.
"No sit on the chair"
"Here is okay Abba"I said sitting comfortably on the carpeted floor.
"I know all your Aunty's have said everything,I just want to show you something"he said bringing out a golden box with beautiful touches of red.
" We have a family heirloom that has been passed down from generation to generation, Do you see this box (he pointed at the golden box his been Holding) every one of you will have it when you're going to your husbands house and today is your day,the day I'll hand over this box to you Amaani,just like it was done to your sister.(He said handing me over the box)it could be anything maybe an engagement ring or necklace that once belonged to a family member and today on this beautiful day I present to you a piece of golden jewelry which was once Mami's,a treasured heirloom giving to her by her parents on her wedding day and today it is passed to you as a family heirloom"he said as he signaled for me to open the golden box,opening it I saw a set of beautiful golden jewelry which comes with a traditional set of Fulani necklace,ear rings,bracelet,hair beads and an anklet chain,one I've never seen before.
"It's beautiful Abba"I said touching it beautifully.
"It'll look even more beautiful on you princess"he said with a smile.
"He handed me over a marriage advices scrapbook,a photo album of family tree booklet and a beautiful diamond bracelet"
"it's a little gift from me to you"he said with a smile patting my head while I hugged him crying hard.
"This is too much Abba,it really is,thank you so much,I love you Abba"I said In between sobs and someone knock On the door interrupting us.
"Sorry for interrupting this beautiful moment but your husband is downstairs waiting for you and Mami called for you to be down in a minute"Ammie said with a smile.
"Come on go with her,else your grandmother will be angry"Abba said while I left with Ammie.
"Let's get all those puffy eyes more beautiful again,she said leading me to my room where all the girls are seated with some family members and a makeup artist.
"A-little touch on her face please,do it quick and make sure she's down in a minute"Ammie ordered the makeup artist as it is already to 11 and the wedding Fatiha will be done in thirty minutes
"Awwwn look who's been crying"Yusrah said in a mocking voice.
"It's not funny,I'm so hungry"I replied with a pout as they all laughed at me.
"Here's your breakfast from mama"fatiti came in with a tray of food and kept it on the center table.
"Hey can I please eat up quick"I asked excusing myself.
"It's okay"he replied and I sat on a chair eating my avocado toast with egg and a berry yogurt smoothie.
"That's how it feels girl,we get to leave everything behind to go stay with our husbands"Maryam said.
"That's so not fair"I said with a pout"
"Few minutes and the knot will be tied baby girl,so keep shut"Halima said
"Wai Amaani ce zata yi Aure yau,ikon God"Layla said dramatically in surprised.
"What happened to sai na gama NYSC?"Halima said falling off the floor laughing like a fool.
"Hey,hey,I've heard enough of speeches today so pls let me rest haba"I said while standing up to sit for the remains touches of my make up.
"You'll rest after the first night karki damu"Jasrah said with no shame.
"Ya Allah"
"Agreed"the girls replied and a message pop up on my screen.
REY❤️-Let's ride into the sunset on a rainbow.
We won't come back until tomorrow
In the grandeur of the misty sunrise,
With stars that fill the skies in our eyes.
We'll paint the sunset with colors of dreams,
Dreams we create with desirous schemes.
I'll use shooting stars to write I love you
On stellar blackboard, this night anew.
We'll fly past galaxies on gossamer wings.
I'll tell our favorite stars of special things
You've done since you touched my heart.
From you I can never live apart.
You're the face in the misty light of the moon,
The laugh that floats on cosmic breeze in June.
You're the magic spark of nature's fiery cone,
The ember of joy I call my own.
As the knot has been tied today 14th of August 2016
You're officially MRS.JAWAAD IMAM NASHE
As Venus and Cupid sigh when I tell you
I feel so very lucky to be loving you.
The one I run to when each day is through,
I simply can't take my eyes off of you.
The morning light may steal this moment bright
And take away the stars of the night.
We'll have the memories by love's brush drawn
That color our dreams and light the dawn.
Look into my eyes and see the sparkling stars,
Those thousand dreams that become ours.
Listen to cascading stars chime in whispers,
I'm yours until the end of time and vespers.
I love you wifey❤️
As I read further more, the smile on my lips expands and all the girls shouted in congratulation snatching my phone and reading it aloud.
"Your husband is romantic" Mario Dedivanovi complemented putting on some eye mascara on my eyes.
"Tooh kinji ai andaura ko?and congratulations is in the air be quick and dress up your husband will be here soon"Aunty mariam-mama's sister said as she stepped into the room and we could all hear congratulations and some music blasting in the living room,cousins,friends and family members all dance in joy while i blushed crimson.
"You're now A Mrs.ya Allah"Halima said faking tears dramatically.
"This is so touching,I really can't believe you're married ya Amaani"jay said coming into the room.
" you better believe oo"Abida said playing with her 7 months old baby girl-Arfat.
"This one is small ai,you haven't seen anything from this two.
"By the way we have some gifts for you,all these lingeries will be good on you"ya Maimu said raising a blue silky lace lingerie.
"which one of the lingeries do you think she should wear on the first night?"ya Zuzu said bringing out more lingeries from a medium box.
"Ya Zuzu kema haka?"i asked unbelievable.
"I'm helping here"she said with an evil smile.
"Look I'm not wearing any of that"I said stubbornly.
"I think you have to"the makeup artist who became my friend from the first time I met him said with a smile.
"Please tell her"manal said.
"Sanda ma zata sa ai bazata Sani ba"Aunty farida came into the room saying.
"Lailaaaa habamana Aunty fareee"I said with a pout.
"Lemme help you choose,we have another full set of lingerie boxes for you downstairs your mother will give it to you herself"she said In a serious tone.
"I think she's wearing that same one"Aunty faree said looking at the same one ya zuzu was talking about earlier.
"Yes I told her"ya zuzu said while the makeup artist putting on the last touches of my makeup.
"Yeah it's the perfect dress for a perfect night"Sofia said.
"It's time to change"the makeup artist said,I stood up to go change in the walk in closet,some minutes later I came out wearing a white lace with touches of blue here and there sewn into a beautifully Simple gown that is fitted in the waist and falls straight to the floor below my hips, with a very minimal flare looking like a sheath gown and a Tulle used to decorate the hands"
"You're looking hot"Fatiti complemented as I came out of the closet.
"Your man won't take off his eyes off you today"Yusrah complemented while feeding Aman and fatiti feeding Amin with milk.
flashes of lights from different angels snapping me some taking videos and some taking pictures and posting it on social media.
"Gaskia you're beautiful,look all the comments am getting"Rafiya said with a surprising smile.
"Thank y'all,now will you all excuse me my hubby is waiting impatiently for me"
"Awwwwwwwwn,masu hubby"Khadija said while capturing the moment in a video.
"Later on she'll say I'm not wearing that lingerie"Zeenat said while we all laugh as we walked down slowly with my heart beating so fast with each step I take.
JAWAAD!
On reaching the mansion of the GALADANCHI's
,a bug mansion ,A big house, the kind in which most American kids dreamed of growing up. Secluded among trees on one of DC's most exclusive streets, it had turrets, gables, dormers, balconies, a screened-in front porch, a free-standing garage, a gazebo, a pool, formal gardents, the American dream.
Perimeter of the grounds was patrolled by armed security, and every inch of the property was wired with cameras, security lighting, and motion sensors.
A front door that could accommodate a family of giraffes.As i and my friends entered into the large living area,A foyer that would accommodate the Serengeti Plant at the foot of a vast curving staircase that probably went to heaven,Polished wood floors and a graceful banister that curved up toward a soaring second floor gallery,Persian rug cove red a shopworn carpet.
Wall. Prints of gentlemen riding to hounds decorate the walls,Crumbling rock walls
Windows.Beautiful high arched windows,
Velvet drapes framed the windows, the lace inner curtains remained drawn, allowing daylight to enter while rendering the heart-stopping view over the face of the most stunning lady I've ever seen,as I couldn't wait to lay my hands on her soft body.
Beautiful!
I can't say how happy I am to be married to this beautiful and wonderful woman,I feel like a complete man who has the most beautiful responsibility to cater for in this world.
The feeling of getting married is beyond imagination we might have dreamt of getting married to a charming prince or princess by watching so many television serials or films or by hearing bedtime stories but the realty is something an eye opener bcos our dreams are not match able with realty we all went through such phase of life,but ours is one to be called history-A wedding worth more than serial and television films,ours is a history and a reality!a wedding Nigeria will never forget.
The day brings joys in our life you will be thrilled yet excited but I'll will be treated like a king at least on this unforgettable occasion my bride of course is like a king taking her in his arms that fateful day/night,i will look in to her eyes to plant love and affection a pleasant smile followed by soft words will sure put her in confidence and kills her fear which makes her believe this is it it's him her dream man.
AMAANI
As we approached the living area where all the groom and groomsmen were seated patiently waiting for the bride to come down,stepping into the living area flashes of lights from every nook and corner where on me as gorge okoro-the photographer captured every minute too,with Halima and Sofia on my sides and he rest of the girls at our back we all entered the living area my head hung low and all the groomsmen where shouting and hailing as jawaad took steps to approach me,I could feel him moving closer by his beautiful scent.As he unraveled my veil well to take a close look at me,I raised my head slowly looking at the man whom I'll call my husband from now on,looking at how handsome he looked wearing a white geznar kaftan with some touches of blue and Babban Riga atop with a zanna bukar cap to complete his looks.
"He held my hands as everyone cheered and captured each moments"
"Someone call 911,one of the hoorul Ayns has escaped from Jannah"he whispered into my ears.
"You look beautiful My love"he whispered holding me firm on my waist.
"Hey let's give these two some moment guys,this my friend here is impatient"His best friend Mahmoud said as they all chuckled to his statement,they all made their way to clear the living area leaving just i and jawaad.
"You look. Handsome too my love"I complemented encircling his neck with my hands leaving him with a surprised smile.
"Well that's a first"he said with a seductive smile.
"So May I?"he asked with a pout.
"What?"I asked confused.
"I wanna hug you love,I've been wanting to do it like forever,please"he asked with a pout pleading and I crushed my body to his In a beautiful hug as he hugged me back which feels so halal.
"Uhmmm,sorry to interrupt but Mami will be down in a sec"Halima announced as we broke the hug, feeling shy and Mami walked right through the door.
Thank God she didn't as that.
"Looking handsome my son"Mami complemented at jawaad as they exchanged greetings.
As you all are seated here today as married couples I'd like to give you some couple of advices"Mami said sitting in a chair while I sat at the right side and jawaad sat at the left on the soft rug carpet in the living area.
When you hear people saying marriage is hard work, that's because each day you'll want to live as if you could lose the other person in a heartbeat, but want to be the person that makes them never want to leave and stick through thick and thin. You both need to give, not take. You both need to put the other over yourself. It requires recognizing you're not perfect, and neither are they — so forgive, and don't take advantage. Don't pick fights. Don't sweat the small stuff. Recognizes you don't have to have the same likes, and you don't have to be with each other all the time. You do have to appreciate and respect one another, be honest, and communicate. Much of the change comes from within, and finding a partner who's willing to do the same. If you can manage that, the advantages of having someone who's always got your back and the joys of not just your own experience but in sharing someone else's are incalculable.
She cleared her throat and continued.
Treat your wife with utmost respect jawaad
Your wife has right to maintain herself and the house and as man you should be providing required means to support them.
Just because as a man you are giving financial support don't make your wife work like a servants. Help in her domestic chores.
Duty is the of a man and women in marriage to fulfilling each other's need for physical intimacy.
Fact that neither man or woman is allowed to speak about their intimacy details with anyone others is praiseworthy. Enjoy each other and explore the intimacy within comfort of your home and do not share details of your love life with anyone. I think when you share intiamcy details with your friends or show off love in public you are objectifying your partner.
Always Know how to handle tension between your wife and your parents. Prioritise your wife but also make your parents understand your relationship and give them care and respect is wonderful way of handling things explained in Islam.
It's give and take, but mostly agreement if your partner is right for you. It's having a best friend, a lover, a person who brings you ice and water when you are sick, and who helps you build your dream when you are well.
It's having someone say, "You forgot your mask," as you climb out of the car to enter a store. And having them tell you, "I miss you so much when you work," when you come home and they are still waiting to have their work open up. It's having them say things like, "I realized again today how lonely I'll be if something ever happens to you."It's sharing the happiest of times and the worst of times and always turning into that person's arms, comforting you. It's laughing at the pets when they do hilarious things and both calling them "our babies."
"Mami said while chuckling,I miss my husband too,I really do miss your grandfather Amaani,he's the just the best and you two remind me of him all the time-A stubborn Maryam and a Jealous Amin"
"That's all I have to say for now,May Allah bless you both,and bless you with wonderful and respectful kids"Mami prayed looking at us both proudly as we muttered an Ameen in unison.
"Now where is the photographer?Lemme snap some pictures with my son and daughter"Mami shouted as gorge okoro and all the groomsmen and bridesmaid came out from no where,we snapped some couple of pictures with Mami and she left saying her feet's hurt.
"While we pose for the 100th time taking pictures with jawaad,his friends and my fiends and family.
Abba came down snap some couple of pictures with i and With both i and jawaad leaving us all with our friends.
"Now we need to take our bride with us as of the groom you'll have to se her later"Aunty fare announced.
"Yeah she needs to get ready"Khadija Said.
"Well,I guess you have to let her go"Farouq said looking at jawaad.
"We'll be going now and until we meet up later"uncle Saszy who became friends with Jawaad in a short while said.
"Please don't make my wife all tired,treat her like an egg and I promise not to be a rider until I ride all your pain away"jawaad and warned as all the people whites in Awwwwwwwwn,as we stood up together ready to go our separate ways for the time he kissed me on my forward surprising me.
"See you when I see you my love"he whispered into my ears as I blushed crimson in embarrassment I walked slowly with some of my friends on my side leaving the living room and they all left too with their groom.
As the day went by,with myself crying and everyone calling me and giving me speeches,gifts and words of advice,as I cried and spoiled Abbas clothes,finding myself hard to let go of him as he cried too with me and I was driven away from him with a lot of struggle so he could get ready to walk me down the aisle,I cried on Mami,Ammie and mama dragging me to the car to go say a good bye to my mother and leave for my marital home after the Koowgal is done as tradition.